During the second year of my career I was going through a strange period, filled with anxiety, uncertainty and a very random turmoil of thoughts and disappointments. I didn’t know what I was so confused about, my first thought was that I was going through midlife crisis, but I was too young for a midlife crisis, 24 isn’t even close to midlife.. after some research and reading I found out what was wrong with me; I was going through a quarter-life crisis -yes it does exists, no I didn’t come up with the term- Abby Wilner did when she graduated college moved back home and didn’t know what to do with her life.
For me, quarter-life crisis hit me when I realized I’m barely in touch with my university friends anymore, I lost track of time, I only hangout with a very limited group of people, I haven’t seen my family in weeks and the money I make is all spent on shoes..
Wikipedia identifies quarter-life crisis as:
The quarterlife crisis is a term applied to the period of life immediately following the major changes of adolescence, usually ranging from the early twenties to the early thirties. The term is named by analogy with mid-life crisis.
The first book to identify this phenomenon was Quarterlife Crisis, the Unique Challenges of Life in your Twenties (Tarcher, 2001), coauthored by Abby Wilner and Alexandra Robbins
Some of the aspects of quarter-life crisis:
- disappointment with one’s job
- nostalgia for university, college, high school or elementary school life
- tendency to hold stronger opinions
- boredom with social interactions
- loss of closeness to high school and college friends
There are many emotional and financial aspects of quarter-life crisis, for me it was a re-evaluation of all interpersonal relationships and realizing how so many of these relationships I was maintain throughout college were actually meaningless, instead of juggling too many social relationships I decided to only invest in the meaningful relationship I have, a full-time job, family, a full-time boyfriend and a meaningful social life is more than enough for any person to have a healthy and happy life.
You can learn more about your quarter-life crisis here http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quarter_life_crisis
Is this something you can relate to? or is it just me?